Coffee & Cocoa: A Conversation About Reconstructing Your Family After They've Deconstructed Their Faith

Coffee & Cocoa: A Conversation About Reconstructing Your Family After They've Deconstructed Their Faith

Hosted by: Kari Bates and Kimberly Bates

Coffee and Cocoa is a conversation between a faithful LDS mother and her daughter who has left the church — and proof that families can come back together even when they're walking different paths. If you're an LDS...

Episodes

Episode 10: How to Reconstruct Your Family After They've Deconstructed Their Faith part 1

Season #1

If you are in the thick of trying to rebuild your family relationships after someone has gone through a faith transition, this is the episode you have been waiting for. In this episode, Kimberly and Kari get down to...
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Episode 9: Same Experience, Different Words

Season #1

What are we actually talking about when we talk about religion? Is it possible that we are just using different words to describe experiences we all have in common? In this episode of Coffee & Cocoa, recorded...
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Episode 8: Making Space: LDS + LGBTQ+

Season #1

What actually changes people's minds about the queer community? Not arguments. Not policy debates. Not conference talks. It's the minute you know someone you love is queer. In this episode, Kari and Kimberly discuss...
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Episode 7: The Sin Next to Murder

Season #1

In this episode, Kari and Kimberly take on purity culture. They talk about what they were taught about sex growing up in the LDS church and the lasting damage that sexual repression does to individuals, relationships,...
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Episode 6: Twilight and the Afterlife

Season #1

Just a note before you listen: we do use the word "Mormon" a lot. We both grew up using the word and Kimberly left the church before 2018 when President Nelson gave his landmark talk. While we mean no offense, we...
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E2: Kimberly's Story

Season #1

  Content note: This episode contains references to sexual assault and suicidal thoughts. Please take care of yourself as you listen.   In this episode Kimberly tells her faith story in complete for the very first...
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E5: Love Is Not Control

Season #1

Estrangement. It's the word nobody wants to say out loud, and the reality too many LDS families are quietly living. In this episode, Kari and Kimberly get into what actually causes families to break apart when a child...
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E3: Kari's Story

Season #1

Content note: This episode contains references to suicidal thoughts. Please take care of yourself as you listen.   Last week, Kimberly told her story. This week, it's Kari's turn. Kari grew up immersed in the LDS...
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E1: The Secret Third Option

Season #1

Most LDS parents of children who have left the church are searching for one thing: how to bring their children back. Kari and Kimberly offer something better.   In this episode, Kari and Kimberly talk honestly about...
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E4: Any God Worth Worshipping

Season #1

After the last two episodes of telling their stories, Kari and Kimberly return to the present. What do they actually believe now, and where do they agree and disagree? Kari and Kimberly discuss: the existence of God,...
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Introduction to Coffee & Cocoa

Season #1

What do you get when a lifelong LDS mother and her daughter who left the church sit down to talk honestly about faith, family, and everything in between? Coffee and Cocoa. Kari is a family relationships coach who...
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